Adoption Recommendation Letter

Friends of ours are trying to adopt their 6th child (4 of 5 are adopted). I sort of like what I came up with this morning :)

November 26, 2008

To Whom it May Concern:

We are writing to fully recommend the Deena and Andrew Kastello as adoptive parents. As parents ourselves, we understand the commitment and vision it takes to raise children with love and a strong sense of individual worth. My husband and I had the opportunity to watch four of the Kastello’s children for a weekend while they were at a wedding. During those few days we were able to understand how their children all are so unique, yet fit together because of what Deena and Andrew have taught them. We also realized the time commitment and exceptional physical and mental strength that Andrew and Deena have every day to raise a large family. It was clear the Kastellos have fostered their individuality and will stop at nothing to give each of their children the best chance of having a healthy, loving home. They embrace change and philosophy that the more love in the home, the better.

Deena guides each of her children based on her love for them, solemn prayer, and invaluable life experiences to help them be the best they can. She inspires her children and all those she comes in contact with to embrace all that life can give them. Andrew also brings strong, unique characteristics to the family. He has overcome challenges to pursue a medical degree. By committing to medical school, and following through with it, he has demonstrated that persistence pays off. His children recognize his sacrifices and what it takes to be successful.

Together they are exemplary parents. They are role models for our family and we will never forget the impact they have had on us as parents. In their home there is a remarkable feeling of love for everyone who enters its doors. Everyone who I come into contact with that has been at their home and met the Kastellos feels the same way. Deena and Andrew have both felt that there are more children that are supposed to be in their home for some time, and have been eagerly preparing for when that opportunity arises.

It is our hope and prayer that the desires of their hearts are met, and they are blessed with the opportunity to adopt another child. Should you have any questions, please do not hesitate to contact us.

Best Regards,

Sarah and Tyler

(Edited July 4, 2009) Please also see comments, and feel free to comment!

I still love this letter. After trying to add to our family for some time we too are in the process of pursuing adoption. It has led me to reflect upon what steps I took to write an effective letter in hopes it may help someone else:

-Say a prayer that Heavenly Father will help clear your mind and write the things in your heart.

-Write from your heart, don't agonize over every word. Time is of the essence because there is sooo much paperwork to do.

-Make sure you say with a qualifier how you recommend the couple.

-Write about your relationship with the adoptive couple. What qualifies you to write this letter? What qualities do you admire in them? How do you know they will care for and provide for the child? How will they raise their children?

-Are there any hobbies or passions that set apart this couple from the rest of the perspective adoptive parents?

-Describe how they interact with their children, or with the children around them.

-Describe the feelings you get when visiting their home. How do other people feel in their home?

-Keep it to one page. You may have to just cut some things out or be satisfied if your letter is only half a page. The most important part is writing from the heart!